As promised, I’m answering questions submitted on our website that didn’t qualify for a Sunday sermon. First, though, I want to respond to some of the specific questions we weren’t able to cover even in the sermons:
Q: Should parents give birth control to their teens if we suspect they are sexually active?
A: To be honest, I don’t know. I would make this a real matter of prayer, and be led by peace (Col. 3:15). For sure, our children need to know our position regarding abstinence. If our teen is a born-again, Spirit-filled Christ follower, then we certainly hope they will wait until marriage. But if the child is rebellious or not a believer, and you have good reason to believe they are active sexually, then I certainly would not criticize a parent for providing birth control — after prayer.
Q: Is masturbation a sin?
A: Probably. For sure, masturbation that results from or includes sexual fantasizing, pornography, etc. is definitely sin, because of what Jesus said here. (Interesting that He mentioned the hand, isn’t it – can’t be sure of what He meant, but I’m just sayin…).
HOWEVER, as a parent, I would caution you from making a ‘big deal’ about this with your teen sons. I agree with Christian authors such as Dr. James Dobson and Dr. Doug Weiss on this issue, that we can sometimes cause more harm by freaking out about this with young men. I would never advocate masturbation as “God’s answer for single men” as some have, and I would especially point out the sin of lustful thoughts and pornography which are almost always a part of masturbation – but I wouldn’t saddle sincere young men with more burdensome guilt than they already struggle with. I know my answer didn’t please some of you, but that’s my honest thoughts on the subject.
Q: Is It ok to use contraception? (i.e., The birth control pill, patch ), anything that prevents pregnancy? What about a tubal ligation or vasectomy?
A: I don’t see anything in Scripture that would forbid contraceptives. The only passage I’ve ever heard asserted (Gen. 38:7-10) is clearly NOT forbidding contraception, but rather was a judgment on a man who refused to obey the cultural responsibility to his deceased brother, in order to preserve his name in Israel.
Q: We had several ‘judgment’ questions (will devout Catholics make it to heaven? How can we reconcile the idea that certain sins will keep someone out of heaven with the idea of a loving God?, etc.)
A: To be honest, I don’t believe God has authorized me or anyone else on earth to decide who will enter heaven (and who won’t). I had all of that kind of judgmental attitude for a lifetime in my former faith family. What I am comfortable declaring is that denominational ‘labels’ don’t mean anything to God, and ALL those who have truly trusted in Jesus and His shed blood for the forgiveness of their sin are declared righteous and will inherit heaven. (In case you’re wondering, that does not negate the verses that speak about those who practice certain sinful lifestyles as not inheriting the kingdom of heaven – at least in my humble opinion, since I do not agree with the teaching of “once saved, always saved” as I have discussed here before.) God is kind, but He is not soft!
Q: Does hell burn for eternity, or will people there just be burned up completely and then it’s over?
A: While I understand the rationale and desire to think that hell would offer limited punishment or what is usually known as “annihilation of the soul”, I personally do NOT see that concept in Scripture. What I do see instead is several references to the ‘eternal’ aspect of hell – including this one from the lips of Jesus Himself.
Q: What is the meaning of ‘Son of Man’, and why is Jesus called the Son of Man?
A: Finally a question I can answer! The term, ‘son of man’ is used especially in Ezekiel and Daniel, as well as of our Lord Jesus. In each case, it is used to emphasize the humanity and frailty of the individual. As to Jesus, the importance of his humanity cannot be overemphasized, because it was Him becoming one of us that enabled Him to be our great Example in all things. If He were only divine, as the Son of God, I wouldn’t be able to relate to Him and would never be able to walk as He walked. But He became like us, so that we can become like Him!
Q: Why is racism a major part of the fabric of the Church?
A: Simple: because we live in a fallen, sinful world. There is NO justification for racism anywhere, anytime – but fallen, sinful humans practice many forms of evil, including racism. And, as I’ve said so many times from our pulpit, we can’t expect our society to get it right until the Church gets it right. While I’d be the first to agree with Dr. Billy Graham that this is one of the major issues facing the American Church today, and that our progress since Dr. Martin Luther King said, “Eleven o’clock on Sunday morning is the most segregated hour of the week” has been small, I’d prefer to focus on churches like CLC where one of our core values is and always has been to be a multi-cultural church intentionally. We may not have it all down perfectly even at CLC, but it is a focus for our leadership team and our goal as an apostolic church to show others the way, with “red and yellow, black and white, they are precious in His sight!”
That’s all I have time for this Friday – hope you found it helpful. I especially hope you’ll join us this Sunday when we’ll tackle the next of the “Got Questions?” series with a look at “Addictions”.